The NYT outlines the tough choices faced by China’s yuppie women, all of which I see among my Chinese coworkers and students, and all of which my wife, thankfully, takes issue with (“Who says stay-at-home moms can’t be strong and foxy?!”):
â€œThe main issue we face is confusion, about who we are and what we should be,â€ said Qin Liwen, a magazine columnist. â€œShould I be a â€˜strong womanâ€™ (å¥³å¼ºäºº) and make money and have a career, maybe grow rich, but risk not finding a husband or having a child? Or should I marry and be a stay-at-home housewife (å…¨èŒå¤ªå¤ª), support my husband and educate my child? Or, should I be a â€˜foxâ€™ (ç‹ç‹¸ç²¾) â€” the kind of woman who marries a rich man, drives around in a BMW but has to put up with his concubines (å¦¾ï¼ŒäºŒå¥¶)?â€
Chinaâ€™s more well-to-do women, she said, are expected to tolerate a husbandâ€™s multiple mistresses. Concubinage, outlawed by the Communists after they took power in 1949, has re-emerged. â€œMost women just assume that sooner or later it will happen,â€ she said. â€œMen have power. Women are weak, and they have too much to lose.”
In another recent anecdote, female job applicants literally have to strut their stuff on a catwalk for their potential future bosses.