Iâ€™m on a former professorâ€™s e-mail list, and he recently sent something about how weâ€™re all trilingual â€“ not in the English, Spanish, and Mandarin sense, but in â€œâ€¦the three universal languages of information, motivation, and intimacy.â€
Information is language about; motivation is language for; intimacy is the language of being and connecting.
Schools primarily speak information; parents, pastors, coaches, and politicians often speak the language of motivation; musicians, poets, children, and lovers generally speak the language of intimacy.
He explains that we begin life speaking intimacy as infants. In school, we begin to discover a world much bigger than our parents, and to learn about it we use the language of information. Finally, â€œwe realize that words can influence and inspire people for action, so we learn the language of motivation.â€
In the process of learning information and motivation, we often lose the language of intimacy. [â€¦] People respect knowledge and inspiration so the languages of information and motivation take center stage.
He goes on to imply that the language of intimacy is the most meaningful of the three.
I think I agree. What is the ultimate point of gathering all our information and developing skills to motivate and influence others? Power is one answer that quickly comes to mind, but power to do what? And for what?
Isnâ€™t the point of learning information and motivation so that we can better relate to ourselves and to one another? To better know ourselves, and thus be more able to share ourselves and receive others? To better and more authentically share life together?
Iâ€™m personally way more comfortable speaking information and motivation. Maybe thatâ€™s why Iâ€™ve played guitar for over a decade but never really been able to write songs, nevermind poetry.
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